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If you’ve ever grabbed your phone at 2 a.m. and typed a mildly unhinged question into ChatGPT like, “Is my baby’s sleep regression permanent or is he just…like this now?”—welcome. You are among friends. I, too, have asked this bot things no responsible adult should type into the internet. To be fair, my son is almost 2, so I’ve only ever parented in a ChatGPT world. I don’t know what it’s like to raise a toddler without AI, books, or the occasional cry-text to a friend who also hasn’t slept since 2022.
But even I had to laugh when Sam Altman, the actual CEO of OpenAI, shared the most relatable new-parent panic spiral on The Tonight Show. And he did not disappoint.
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The parenting moment Sam Altman shared on late-night TV
During his conversation with Jimmy Fallon, Fallon started with the easy stuff. “I know that you and your husband just had a baby. How old is he?”
“Eight months,” Altman replied, beaming in that way only new parents do when they’ve had exactly 25 minutes of sleep in five nights.
Then Fallon went for it: “Do you use ChatGPT when raising your baby?”
And Altman, head of the world’s most advanced AI company, admitted, “I do. I mean, I feel kind of bad about it… I cannot imagine having gone through, like, figuring out how to raise a newborn without ChatGPT.”
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But then came the moment every parent knows too well. Altman shared that a friend casually asked if his baby could crawl at six months. Altman’s baby… could not. What happened next is the most universal parenting instinct of all time:
“I ran to the bathroom, and I was like, do I need to take my kid to the doctor tomorrow morning? ‘Is this okay?’”
He typed the question into ChatGPT, fully spiraling, as one does.
The bot responded that everything was normal and then delivered a… surprisingly astute little nudge:
“By the way, you’re the CEO of OpenAI, you probably are around all these high-achieving people, maybe you don’t want to project that onto your kid, and you should just relax.”
Sir. Your own product read you.
Parents loved this moment because it was so deeply, painfully real. Milestones? Comparisons? A well-timed bathroom panic search? This is the human condition of raising a baby.
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Why milestone worries can spiral so quickly
One passing comment is all it takes. Someone mentions their kid ate with chopsticks at 11 months and suddenly we’re in the laundry room Googling “is delayed pincher grasp a sign of lifelong doom.”
Culturally, we’ve been conditioned to treat development like a race only our child is somehow losing. And the truth is: babies unfold at different speeds. Crawling can happen anytime from 6 to 10 months. Sometimes later. Sometimes never—some kids skip crawling entirely and go straight to walking and causing chaos.
Every pediatric expert says the same thing: look for patterns, not a single data point.
But parents often hear a milestone benchmark and go straight to worst-case scenarios. Because we care. Because we want to know our babies are okay. Because we’re tired and overstimulated and also because the internet exists.
How Altman uses ChatGPT as a parenting tool
Altman admitted he used ChatGPT “constantly” during those early newborn weeks. Instant answers. Reassurance. Some sense of control in the fog.
And honestly? I get it. The appeal is huge when:
- Your brain is a warm bowl of oatmeal
- Your pediatrician’s office is closed
- You can’t remember the difference between tummy time and floor time
- Your baby just did something weird and you need to know now if it’s normal
Tools like ChatGPT can offer clarity, context, and sometimes, bless it, a calming, “You’re doing fine.”
But even Altman noted the irony: he’s sitting on what he calls “genius-level intelligence,” and he’s using it to ask why his kid throws pizza on the floor.
Relatable.
Related: I’m a ChatGPT convert—here’s how it helps with my mental load of motherhood
Where AI fits (and where it falls short) in parenting
Here’s the good news: AI can help. Expert-backed reassurance matters. And studies show that when parents feel less anxious, they make more confident decisions. But AI is still limited.
Where it helps:
- Reframing a panic spiral
- Explaining milestones and ranges
- Translating medical jargon
- Offering a grounded “take a breath” answer when you need one
Where it falls short:
- It can be wrong. A 2024 study found that roughly 52% of ChatGPT’s medical answers were inaccurate (source).
- It can’t read your child’s cues.
- It doesn’t replace your pediatrician.
- It doesn’t have an emotional bond with your baby (or with you).
AI is a tool. Not a co-parent. Not a substitute for the humans who know and love your child.
The bigger conversation Altman’s story sparks for all parents
We are raising kids at a moment when the advice firehose never shuts off. Books, doulas, TikTok, pediatricians, mom group chats, AI bots. When you’re overwhelmed, it makes sense that you’d reach for whatever feels fastest.
But parenting was never meant to be done alone, and it definitely wasn’t meant to be done through panic-searching in a bathroom after someone mentions the word “crawling.”
What most of us really need is connection. Community. A pediatrician we trust. A friend who texts “my kid didn’t crawl until nine months, you’re fine.” Another parent who reminds us that milestones are markers, not report cards.
Sam Altman’s story isn’t actually about AI. It’s about something much more familiar: that deep, primal fear of getting it wrong as a parent.
And the truth, one I’m still learning every day, is that you can’t outsource your intuition. You fine-tune it by being present, watching your child, and letting real humans reassure you when you’re exhausted and unsure.
So yes, ask ChatGPT your weird parenting questions. I’ll be right there with you Googling “why does my toddler sob when the banana breaks in half.” But the wisdom, support, and calm we crave? Those still come from each other.